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October 1, 2024 / Mondy Dorsainvil

Rebuild Trust in Your Relationship in 30 Days: Week 2 – Addressing the Root Causes

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We are back for Week 2 of our “Trust Renovation Project.”


Week 2: Addressing the Root Causes

If you thought Week 1 was a wild ride, buckle up because we’re about to dig deeper than a mole on steroids. We’re talking root causes, people! It’s time to put on your emotional hazmat suits and dive into the toxic waste dump of your relationship issues.


Day 8-10: Going Cold Turkey on Blame

For the next three days, we’re going cold turkey on blame. That’s right, no more pointing fingers like you’re picking someone out of a police lineup.

“But Mondy,” you say, “how am I supposed to express my frustration?” Well, let me tell you something—there’s a difference between expressing frustration and playing Pin the Tail on the Donkey with your partner’s faults.

Instead of saying, “You’re always late because you’re selfish,” try this revolutionary concept: “I feel anxious when we’re running behind schedule.” See what I did there? We’re not accusing; we’re expressing. It’s like magic, but instead of pulling rabbits out of hats, we’re pulling mature communication out of our… well, you get the idea.


Day 11-12: Embracing Vulnerability

It’s time for us to take an emotional deep dive, folks. We’re talking full-on vulnerability mode, like posting your unfiltered morning selfie on social media. Yes, that kind of raw.

Let’s face it, opening up about your insecurities is about as comfortable as trying to fit into those jeans from before the pandemic. But guess what? It’s necessary. Just like how we’ve learned to embrace our authentic selves online, it’s time to bring that energy into your relationship.

Share those deep-seated fears with your partner. You might say, “I get jealous when you’re always on your phone because I’m worried I’m not as interesting as your TikTok feed.” Or, “I keep nagging about your work-from-home habits because I’m scared of losing our connection in this digital age.”

Is it comfortable? About as comfortable as sitting through a three-hour Zoom meeting with your camera on. But here’s the thing—just like how we’ve adapted to virtual everything, we can adapt to this new level of emotional honesty. And trust me, the payoff for your relationship will be bigger than the latest viral dance trend.


Day 13: The Needs and Wants Roundtable

Today, we’re hosting a needs and wants roundtable, and the only currency accepted is open communication. Think of it as a team meeting for your relationship where everyone gets a voice, and no one gets left on mute!

Take turns sharing what you truly need from each other. Maybe you say, “I need more quality time without distractions—no phones, no Netflix, just us.” Or perhaps you express, “I want to feel recognized for the little things I do, like making dinner or planning our weekend.”

This is your chance to lay it all out there like you’re curating your Spotify playlist—no holds barred! But here’s the twist: after you share, your partner gets to respond with how they can meet those needs. This isn’t just about airing grievances; it’s about building a bridge to understanding.

So, listen actively and be ready to brainstorm solutions together. By the end of this roundtable, you’ll both have a clearer picture of what makes each other tick. And remember, this isn’t a one-time meeting—make it a regular check-in, just like you would for your favorite podcast series. Keep those lines of communication open! How does that feel?


Day 14: Creating a Trust Agreement

Alright, it’s time for the big relationship software update. We’re talking about creating a “Trust Agreement”—and while it’s not coded into the blockchain, breaking it might just have you speed-dating with AI companions, if you catch my drift.

Lay out your expectations, boundaries, and promises like you’re programming a smart home. “I promise to share my real-time location when I’m on my way home.” “I expect transparency, even if it means sharing your entire digital footprint.”

Draft it, e-sign it, heck, mint it as an NFT if you want to get fancy. Just make sure you commit to it like it’s the latest must-have tech—because for your relationship, it is.


Wrapping Up Week 2

There you have it, folks.

Two weeks in the books, two more to go. You’ve done a deep data dive, stripped down your firewalls, and rebuilt your connection. You’re not out of the digital woods yet, but at least now you have a high-res map and a quantum compass.

Keep at it and remember—trust is like your 6G connection. The more you invest in it, the stronger and faster it gets. See you next week!

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Mondy Dorsainvil

I'm a Licensed Master Social Worker (LMSW) with over 12 years of experience in helping individuals, couples, and families navigate the complexities of their lives. Specializing in communication, conflict resolution, intimacy issues, and parenting challenges, I offer evidence-based and culturally sensitive therapeutic interventions tailored to each client’s unique needs. My approach is systemic and strengths-based, focusing on leveraging inherent strengths to achieve personal and relational goals. Committed to professional development, I stay abreast of the latest research and practices in Marriage and Family Therapy, including LGBTQ+ affirmative therapy. Join me here as we explore insightful strategies for positive change and personal growth.

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3 Comments:

  • Alexandra Dongala

    October 2, 2024 / at 10:15 am

    I love that this site is very interactive, not too many colors but enough to keep my eyes on the content of the blog. For the blog itself, I like that the information is pertinent to interpersonal relationships. Love the emphasis on expressing how someone else’s action impact one by using “I” statements. Great!

    • rescuretherapy

      October 2, 2024 / at 4:09 pm

      Thank you so much, Alexandra! I’m really glad you’re finding the site engaging and the content relevant to your own experiences. It’s important to me that the design supports the message without overwhelming it, so I’m happy to hear that the balance feels right. The focus on “I” statements is one of my favorite tools for helping people navigate relationships more effectively. It’s great to know it resonated with you! I appreciate your support and hope the upcoming articles continue to provide valuable insights for you. 😊

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