Hi Mondy,

Hope you’re holding it down, brother. I got a situation that’s been weighing heavy on my mind, and I need your take on it. See, I’ve been feeling like my man might be spinning tales smoother than butter, or maybe it’s just my trust radar on overdrive.

The other night, he said he was working late, but when I called his cell, the call went straight to voicemail. When he came home, I asked him about it, he told me that’s because his phone was dead. “Whatever!.” He never done this to me before, my gut’s screaming “you’re a terrible liar,” but then again, maybe I’m just seeing shadows where there ain’t none.

Here’s the thing – I’ve been cheated one before by my last two boyfriends and seen too many sisters burned by smooth talkers and cheaters to trust easily. Am I just tripping on past scars, or is my man playing me like a fiddle? Hit me back with your wisdom, Mondy. Am I right to be wary, or am I letting my past dictate my present? Oh by the way, I love your podcast, and Fabi, well, she is so stupid, love my girl!

Stay safe in these streets,
Mayla

Hi Mayla

First off, let me just say thank you for listening to my podcast, and I’m glad to hear you’re enjoying it. Now, let’s dive into this journey you’re on. Trust, it’s a tricky road, especially when past betrayals have left you wary. I get it; those scars run deep, making it hard to see clearly in your current relationship.

Trust, it’s the bedrock of any bond. When it’s been shattered before, rebuilding isn’t no walk in the park. Your past experiences have etched doubts in your heart, but remember, each love story is its own tale.

Now, about this recent incident with your man and his disappearing phone while working late – a classic red flag or just life throwing curveballs? Sometimes phones do die, and work can swallow a man whole for hours. Take a step back, sis; don’t let assumptions steer you wrong.

Instead of letting your mind run wild, why not sit down with your man and have a heart-to-heart? Lay out your fears, share your truth. Give him space to explain his moves and ease those worries weighing heavy on your soul. Watch his eyes and body language; they speak volumes.
Relationships? They thrive on talk and understanding. If this feels like too much to handle solo, consider a counselor’s wisdom. They can guide you through these choppy waters and help heal old wounds that might be tainting your present.

I can offer my two cents, but at the end of the day, it’s your call. Trust those instincts of yours; don’t let shadows from the past cloud your present sunshine. You deserve honesty, respect – the whole nine yards. If your man isn’t bringing that to the table, maybe it’s time to reassess.

No love story is flawless; bumps are part of the ride. Keep those lines of communication wide open to navigate these storms together. That’s how you build a bond that can weather any storm – strong, unbreakable.

Remember who you are in all this chaos. Put yourself first as you wade through these murky waters. You’ve got what it takes to untangle this mess and come out wiser on the other side. Stay strong, seek guidance when needed – that’s how you’ll make choices that ring true to your soul.

As you navigate these uncharted waters, know this: you’re tougher than you think. Hold your head high and trust in your power to steer towards happiness and peace. Stay resilient on this journey; trust in yourself to find the path that leads to your best self and brightest future.

Take care out there; I’m rooting for you.

Mondy

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